I'm Outing You All... Well you ones "In a Relationship"

Since being single you wouldn't believe some of the guys that have come out of the wood works!


I wouldn't laugh so hard if they were single and worthy of a text or Facebook message but when I get a message pop up in my inbox of, 
"You are looking good these days" (oh great so you saying I looked like my arse before?) you kinda can't help but laugh when you click on the link to their profile and their relationship status equals, "In a relationship with..."


This leaves me thinking, "I'm sure you wouldn't be any longer if I forwarded this email to her!"


Do guys have a problem of keeping their dick in their trousers for more than five minutes?


I do wonder if I said to them, 
"yeah ok I'll meet you for some "fun" "
whether they would end up running a mile never to be heard from again!


The conversation that most intrigued me was from a boy I used to go to school with. 
I remember having a crush on him in year 8 and in the end we became pretty good friends until sixth form. 
Anyway he's being going out with the same girl for around six years now and after seeing him out one day he spoke to me on Facebook chat. 
At first I thought it was all innocent, just a general catch up, until he asked me if I was looking for "fun" (that word again). 
So as you do, I reminded HIM that he had a girlfriend and wouldn't she disagree with his "fun" - his explanation being;
"I haven't been with anyone else, I just want to make sure I'm with the right person." 
Great way to decide mate, I'm sure she would agree when you tell her this is the reason you want to spend the rest of your life with her. - (because the other girl just wasn't good in bed - which I like to state this is not true!)
After all this lovely chat I had with him (not) and I had rejected him (poor boy still only had one shag) he asked me not to breathe a word (yeah thought I'd just publish it here) and then had the cheek to delete me off his friends list!!

The Facebook Dilema...

I’ve always dreamt of Mr Right and when I went to University I thought I found him. After three years of what I thought could be the rest of my life, I got dumped and Facebook stalking commenced!

This may make me sound possessive, insane and totally unstable but you can’t tell me I’m the only woman that does this.

My three reasons of Facebook stalking an ex:

1. Knowing his every move
2. Wondering if he is missing you as much as you do him
3. Seeing if there is a new girl in his life

In the many months after my heartbreak I found I was constantly refreshing the news feed and clicking on his profile link, what made me think that it would change in five minutes I don’t know! He hardly went on Facebook when we were together!

Why we women have the Facebook stalking urge baffles me. It just ends in further misery, as what we’re searching for is signs of him moving on.

There’s the innocent photograph (that us, as the broken hearted ex likes to conjure the worst story possible in our heads) of him and another girl you haven’t ever met in the three years you were together which means she MUST be someone new in his life. Then there is the new girl he “friend” added into his social life that you hope when you click on her link she has no privacy settings what so ever so you can start to Facebook stalk her if they get too friendly! 

I used to log in and out of Facebook chat to see if he was online. If he wasn’t then I either told myself it was because he;

Had a life other than me/he’s dating again/he’s not miserable like me.

(Delete, as you feel appropriate).

If he was online it was a whole different story! I would sit at my laptop my heart in the pit of my stomach contemplating what I would say if he spoke to me (which I knew full well he wouldn’t) and then arguing with myself as to whether he should speak to me first or if I should just bite the bullet and risk getting ignored when I said that simple word of “hi”.

All I’m trying to say is your not alone. You’re technically not;

Insane/possessive/totally unstable.

(Again delete, as you feel appropriate).

I like to think it is just our odd feminine ways to get over our ex and possibly see they’re not all we thought them to be and that if they can move on so can we.

It’s not the end of the world, I like to think I have many more guys to add to my,

“I’ve stalked you” list to go yet! Jokes. 

Relationships vs Singledom.

As long as I can remember I have always been in a relationship. It's just the way it has turned out. I always said I wanted to stay single when I split from ex after ex after ex but it just didn't really work out like that. Now I am single and the whole dating game baffles me.

Earlier I was speaking to a friend about relationships vs singledom and she made the comment of how she finds dating harder than when she was in a relationship.

Personally I think there are pros and cons to both.

With the dating scene I definitely feel like I have to be on top form 99% of the time (the 1% allows the guy to see that you are still human and have slip ups!)

This means always looking immaculate, choosing the right things to say; instead of useless, irrelevant things and saying the wrong thing that either,

a) makes me look stupid 
b) offends someone
c) wasn't needed to be said.

Then there is the dilemma of whether you go dutch on bills or expect him to pay or worst still does he expect you to pay?

Do you give him a kiss at the end of the night? Does he want a kiss at the end of the night? Do you want to give him a kiss at the end of the night?

All this being said, learning about someone new, having that little rush of excitement inside as someone likes you and the not knowing what is to come, leaves you buzzing.

Then there is the relationship.

At least in a relationship you know where you both stand and you can drop the standards slightly as your boyfriend will know what you look like with messy hair and no make up and tatty clothes and not care because he is with you for you. You can talk about who is paying and your little comments that in the past would have done either a,b or c just makes him think you're cute. At the end of the night you also know that the last thing you want from him is to be kissed and to give him a kiss.

All this being said I wouldn't even know how to approach a guy anymore to get a date in the first place. Taking this all into consideration, I think my dating woes can happily sit there in the back of my mind. I'll just sit back and enjoy the single life for the time being and if I get approached by someone who is worth my questions and my 99% form then I'll take it as it comes.

Is Romance Dead or Just Dead in my World?

I feel this question is always being asked in the 21st Century and I don't know if it's because we never seem to make time for it anymore, people can't be bothered with the effort as they feel they don't need that added spark in the relationship or just generally we don't know how to be romantic.

Whatever it is, I think it needs to be brought back full throttle and I'm not just talking about men needing to pull out their romantic side, us women need to as well! 

I mean don't get me wrong, I've been romanced with the whole candles and dinner cooked for me and little presents brought here and there but after what we all like to call "the honeymoon period" it tends to only come around on occasions like, Valentines Day and Birthdays and the same romantic gesture tends to always be present. What happened to element of surprise? Or being impulsive? 

I like to think I've been a bit better on the uptake of romance in the past by taking partners away or by arranging little romantic gestures I know they would appreciate.

It just frustrates me when films promote romance like it still happens frequently and as amazingly as its shown on screen, if anything its far from it. Either that or I haven't found "Mr Perfect" who wants to continuously sweep me off my feet like I do them, instead of watching the football or drinking with his friends.

I do however have a bit of faith left thanks to my friend telling me yesterday how her boyfriend had brought her a dress (would like to point out Topshop) and flowers and no it wasn't her Birthday nor any other occasion or their "Honeymoon period". Just pure love for her.

Jealous much... Only a tad....