Gym (dating) Etiquette

How do you approach someone at the gym; if at all?

I've been at my gym for a year now and there is always a new hotty showing up, but how exactly do you speak to them when they have ear phones jammed in their ears/with their mate/posing in front of the mirrors (I mean doing weights...)

Now in terms of guys talking to me I've had two different approaches:

1) In the steam room where I'm near to naked and it's just me and him. That awkward conversation begins and I was too polite to make my excuses (20 years too young) and do a runner! Instead I let the steam get to the point where I was at fainting point and then left. (20 minutes later).

2) This approach happened just the other week and stemmed this post.

There I was, on Bank Holiday Sunday (yes, that is how interesting my life is, gym on a Sunday and even more so a Bank Holiday!)

There I was sat (note: earphones in) on the abs machine - yes ok, I was replying to a text, but I had just done a rep of 20 so was having a breather and again it was Bank Holiday Sunday making the gym near enough empty.

This guy comes up to me, his lips start moving, I look behind me to remember all there is, is a brick wall. Excellent it's me his lips are moving to.

As you know from previous posts I'm always too polite to ignore/tell them to piss off. In true Daniela style I took my earphones out and listened to what he was saying whilst thinking of the quickest/politest way to get him to go away.

He came out with lines like, 

"Not see you in here before"

"What you doing here on Bank Holiday Sunday?"

One question I got was what music was I listening to which resulted in me picking up my Ipod with a follow up question of; 

"Oh is that one of the cool ones that do video?" I replied; "I'm not sure my boyfriend brought me it so to put my music on".

There, boyfriend card played surely he would leave me alone now? No, instead I then get grilled about my "boyfriend" that I don't have. He eventually clicks I don't want to talk to and leaves me be... 20 minutes later!

So gym etiquette; how do you do it, if at all? 

Put it this way, I haven't got a clue! I do know however the 2nd approach won't be it!

For the past four months now I've seen the same "red sweatpants boy" and all we manage to exchange is the uncomfortable smile. I mean I don't want to just wade up to him! He may pull the "girlfriend" card and then what?

I think if at all, the best approach maybe that awkward silence in the steam room/sauna.

Now just to work out how to get him in there...!

A dangerous drive. New way to find a date?

I got my new car about a month ago now and not even 24 hours of having it I nearly sent a guy flying off his bike, (by bike I mean push bike).


I would however, like to blame the car that was slowly creeping out of the inside lane on the roundabout which resulted in my view being blocked. As you do though, I began to follow the other car out, followed the car a bit too much, as out of no where a guy comes flying round the roundabout swerves to just miss the rear end of my car to come in quite close contact with the pavement!


In such a fluster I abandoned my car and went running to his side only to get graced with "Fuck off" which I guess was half deserved! Later once he'd calmed down and I was in a stupid amount of shock we got talking (well, he did to try and calm me down) and I found out that he'd moved to Peterborough and doesn't particularly like it, where he worked, what his name was and a little show off detail, "I'm a pro biker so that's why I'm fine."
Whilst chatting I must of slipped in a few facts about myself due to my shock, as I recall saying it was my last day at my job and they were all probably thinking I just couldn't be bothered to turn up for my last day!


Well panic over, so I thought, he put me in my car and asked me for a pen, at this point I asked if he would like my insurance details to which he replied "no" (he was quite a gentleman to be fair) instead he gave me his email address for work and told me to send him an email when I got to work otherwise he would worry because of the amount of shock I had seemed to of developed.


This left me laughing in a reply of, "I nearly hit you but your the one checking up on me" and then off he went on his bike and off to work I went.


I did think it was a bit odd having his email address and a bit worried he may later want my insurance details. There would be me the ex student skint as anything working a temp job to get out that stupid overdraft forking further into it for a "near miss". Me being me however, (not rude, has a guilty conscious) I put my keyboard to work and sent him an email in which I thanked him for his concern and apologised for my stupidity as well as notifying him I'd made it to work. This all consisted of around four lines.


About half an hour later I received an email back from bike man consisting of three paragraphs! He told me of his injury but said he was made of steel. He then went on to make me feel better (well this is what his aim was) by telling me of accidents he had been part of where he actually was hit. To conclude his email he again told me he was built for endurance and then said how; "once he had calmed down, to have a near miss with what turned out to be a beautiful woman was actually a good thing in his day."
Did I email him back? I'm afraid I didn't.


1. I'm not too sure on whether the email would of led to a date of some sort in which case how do you act around a guy you could of potentially killed?
2. If we were to date and it ended badly would he then want my insurance details?
3. I just don't think he was my type. (In fact I know, I couldn't remember what he looked like so with the name off the email I tracked him down via Facebook, as you do, and checked him out!)


Sorry Mr Bike man if you read this. You were a gentleman, just not mine.

Small world or are do you just "know everyone" ?

I was seeing this guy a few months and all the time there was this one girl on Facebook who always had to comment on his status, like his status, comment on his wall or whatever else there was left for her to do. At the time I thought it was just an obsession with him (because yeah ok give it to him he was pretty damn tasty!) 


Recently though I've had a few guys add me from Peterborough and as you do, you browse on their profile have a ganders see if they're a total player (which yes they all are) and then just see what they're all about. 
One thing I did learn about them all is they all have this girl in common and guess what!? She also likes all their status' and comments like there is no tomorrow!


Yes I'm having a bitch about some girl I've never met but I just wonder if she has anything better to do with her life? She obviously doesn't have a boyfriend otherwise she wouldn't be putting herself out there through social networking because personally from being up so many guys arses like that (this is not literal) she must just need a good seeing to?


I'm fed up of seeing her name and profile picture everywhere with her agreeing comments and liking hands! Does she not have any self respect?


So please someone sort her out so then if I was to ever bump into her somewhere I don't end up gauging my eyes out from seeing her so much previously!